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Studies are now showing the absolute need for a change in how we raise our children emotionally. Research into what our children need to succeed no matter what the race, culture, or social status is extensive. There is now a center at Yale University for Emotional Intelligence that is growing and expanding its outreach of their findings and the findings of research happening across the world. Daniel Goleman began this research doing studies in businesses and their successes when employees were trained in EI(EQ). It needs to begin at childbirth!
It has been established that 80% of a child’s success is the result of his Emotional Intelligence skills. We all know of very intelligent people who are unable to reach their potential as a result of social and emotional factors that stand in their way. We have been so focused on IQ and academic skill development that we have ignored the need for the development of the right brain that houses the emotional brain. Schools are now reevaluating when they will begin to teach reading and math. Studies now are showing that the introduction of these skills too young, especially with children that are lacking the emotional development from secure and safe homes, is detrimental to their succeeding academically. Eliminating active play (not ipads, etc.) inhibits the ability to enhance creativity, problem solving and managing emotions. All children do better academically when their play has been extended through at least kindergarten.
Teaching Emotional Intelligence skills in homes and classrooms will refocus our parents and our educators. This will also help to bring civility back to communities! Bullying on all fronts will slowly dissipate for with the practicing of new behaviors and refocusing on the positive messages, the development of our emotional brain will stimulate connection, communication, kindness and the ability to be engaged in stable relationships.
What does having an emotionally intelligent home look like? These 7 behaviors will resonate as daily occurrences:
Empathy for others through kindness/teaching appropriate relatedness
Choosing positive thinking that motivates good choices/builds confidence
Extending a hand in service helping us to choose others needs before our own/learning to delay gratification
Managing our emotions and regulating our moods with positive self-talk and awareness/self-control
Capacity to communicate our apologies and receive them helping to clear the path for more clear thinking
Learning to share, compromise, problem solve through play, role playing our dreams, hopes and goals
Persisting in the face of frustration by focusing on gratitude, re-experiencing our challenges as not being victimized
Not only will it give your children an academic edge, but also the foundation that will ensure their success in whatever they choose to do and will help them learn to be together in an atmosphere of sharing, kindness and please don’t forget play!